... the other Black experience
18 yr olds dating 14-15-16-17 year olds (or seniors dating freshmen)- "wrong"?
So l was just wondering what you think about an 18 year old in high school dating someone younger than them in the same school. Or, maybe a senior dating a freshman or sophomore? I, for one, have never dated before, yet I know kids in my senior class who have with sophomores + freshmen. Personally, I never viewed it as much of a problem. So I would like to know where you guys are with this whole thing. Peace!
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Permalink Reply by sceneless on -
I've done it. When I was a senior in H.S. my girlfriend was a junior.
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Permalink Reply by Nana Yeah! on -
If there weren't laws placing restrictions already... I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.
The thing is, you have to see it this way. The freshmen dating 18-year-olds and copulating... are dating criminals.
If they're not respecting the law, they're probably not good anyway.
I just don't think they should be placed under the "sex offender" umbrella if it's two consenting humans, cause when you're a teenager, you know if you wanna have sex or not.
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Permalink Reply by Jay on -
It's legal and all, but not a good idea. There is a massive change each year between 14, 15, 16, 17,18 and so on, those are the years you're realllly growing up. In one year you can completely change your priorities, friends, goals etc.. I remember only caring about myspace and my bangs as a 16 year old, and somehow matured like all hell by that time the next year. As an 18 year old you're probably worried about and interested in more substantial shit than a 16 year old, and the relationship would be mismatched and frustrating.
Plus boobs dont fully develope until about 18
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Permalink Reply by Candypink on -
When I a junior in high school. I remember when a new group of freshmen came. I remember all the senior and juniors boys. Started going after those 14 and 15 year girls. I really surpised that no teacher said anything about it. Cents most of the boys were 18.
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Permalink Reply by lyfenlyn on -
When I was 16 I dated a 23 year old military guy for a year. The relationship eventually fizzled itself out.
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Permalink Reply by Gullah*Gotham*Glitter on -
Thats the problem. When you're in school and you date someone who is in your "school range" it doesn't seem wrong to you at all. And it shouldn't. In your eyes that person is on the same level as you. But in the eyes of the law, you are an adult and that person is a child.
I think due to this factor grade schools should seriously be changed. 14 year old children shouldn't be around 18 year olds. Thats just trouble however you slice it. The older I've gotten the more I've come to realize how much a year or two makes in maturity and understanding. When I was 14 or 17 I wouldn't have believed it but now at the age of 20+ I've come to realize that my mind has changed quite a bit in the past few years.
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Permalink Reply by SouLove™ on -
it's nothin wrong wit it because it happened to me. im 17 and a senior in high school. i dated a 19 year old who was a sophmore in college. but we broke up because he was wack!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lolz.
but love is love. age or distance never matters. love will find whoever is meant to be in love.
as for me.....i have no love
iM single. yay me :-)
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Permalink Reply by Nana Yeah! on
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Jay said:Plus boobs dont fully develope until about 18
It varies. I think mine were done at about age 16. Then again I started my period at, what, like 8 or 9?
Do you guys think middle school should be changed back from 6th grade to 9th or 7th through 9th again?
I think that would make a little more sense. 7th grade to 9th grade was filled with like minded mentality...
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Permalink Reply by Gullah*Gotham*Glitter on
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jahluv said:I was 17 as senior in high school, my 9th grade girlfriend was 14. I dated her for 5 years, we broke up during her first year in college, my 3rd year in the Marines - no big deal.
Took a sista to the prom when I was 22, I wasn't the only brotha legally drinking in the bar while our dates took a million photos with their friends, again - no big deal. Having a good job let me rent a nice car and a suite for the night - 10x better than my own prom.
Johnny law isn't going to be breathing down your neck about it unless you pull some Chris Brown stupidity. I'd be more worried about a pissed off mom or dad who is tripping off the age difference.
Another sign that you're guilty until proven innocent in this country. And I would dare my daughter to date a marine while she was still in high school.
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Permalink Reply by SouLove™ on
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some boyz go after younger females to get them to do things. i just think it depends on the intentions....
no...a 14 year old shouldnt date an 18 year old becuase thatz rape. but a 16 year old or 17 year old could...
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Permalink Reply by MissE on -
Wow, I didn't realize that so many people would have a problem with this. I thought it was just my mom. When I was a Senior in high school I dated a freshman boy. A lot of folks joked on me about it calling me a cougar in training and a cradle robber and my mom raised a huge stink over it. In fact when I graduated she would get on me every single day about it until a few weeks before college I broke up with him. The poor guy didn't realize I had broken up with him (I was kind of blubbering and wailing on the phone and then hung up) and for the past 3 years has been wondering what the fuck happened. We started talking again this summer and are even closer than we were going out. There is a part of me that still wants him, but I don't know. He was my first love. Before him, I had written off humanity, myself and love altogether, but he made me believe again. I enjoy having him in my life again and I think I can be happy with him being my friend, but sometimes when we hang out I have this overwhelming feeling of unfinished business between use, because things weren't allowed to run their course or whatever.
Oh and the relationship wasn't about the sex. I mutual desire was there and we did fool around a bit, but we were both too shy to fuck. I just loved him, more than I've loved anyone ever. Honestly, I was just happy to have him wrap his arms around me and kiss my hands and hear his heart race when I laid my head on his chest.
Argh...when did I become this fluffy romantic?
/sappy romantic spew
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