do you have a type?

so i'm talking to a friend of mine whom i am interested in dating. he's black as well & he said that he's shocked that i like him. i asked why, seeing as we have a lot of things in common. he said that he thought that he didn't fit the "type" of guy i'd usually like.

personally, i don't have a "type" because i try not to label people [i do but it doens't affect my friendships or social circle]. the only requirements for me to like you is to be funny & honest. how do you all feel about "type" dating? [stereotypes, race, religion, etc.]

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Permalink Reply by Ash Elle Aye on June 18, 2008 at 4:44pm

If they can hold my attention for longer than 10 seconds and they have a good personality, I don't care if they're a hip hop head, rocker, skater and etc.

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Permalink Reply by Madamoiselle De Sade on June 18, 2008 at 10:49pm

Some dude told me he figured I liked really big and tall dudes. ...his basis for this was. ...nothing.
People don't need a reason to come to assumptions.

I don't have a "type" and I find greviance with the people who do because it's stupid and arrogant to limit yourself to "a type" when there's so much out there. I mean, why do it? Some sort of fantasy about being a picker not a chooser? that's the only thing I can come up with.
And I'm not talking general, either I'm talking about people who get specific about it.. ..certain body types, etc., all that is a bunch of bull.

I like people who aren't braindead and can hold a conversation about something other than "what's on TV: Idol and the news" for longer than 15 minutes. Wide interests is great too, people that box themselves in are prone to doing the same to others.

I also require that they bathe a minimum of 4 times a week and don't ask me for $20 every 25 mintures.

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Permalink Reply by MER on June 18, 2008 at 11:55pm

I have a soft spot for nerds XD. I can't help it. A cute dork/nerd talks smart (or dork) and I turn to butter.

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Permalink Reply by revolutionary on June 19, 2008 at 2:09pm

I hate the very concept of being limited to a physical "type". Maybe I'm a little bitter on it because I just got my heart broken really badly by someone who led me on, only to tell me eventually that I wasn't his "type", that he could only be attracted to girls with pale skin, dark hair, and wide hips. That kind of mentality makes me sick in the stomach. This guy in particular stayed a virgin and never had a real relationship, "against his will" (quotation marks because he willingly chose to ignore plenty of awesome chicks that didn't fit into his physical limitations), 'till 25, claiming that "no girls" were ever interested in him (when plenty were, in fact) - I guess he didn't consider anyone without the pale skin, dark hair, and wide hips to be a "girl". Yeah, I'm still pretty hurt/bitter over that one :-/

I dunno... I mean, sure, some "types" do catch my eye more than others at first, but I often find myself developing attraction to people I wouldn't have blinked twice at, after I've gotten to know them. It's all about being open minded and giving people a chance, I think...

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Permalink Reply by LesYpersound on June 19, 2008 at 8:44pm

i have a type that catches my attn early (less about actual features more about the way a person carries themselves), but then i lose interest pretty quickly after that if there's nothing in common or dude/gal is a jackass, insincere, or boring (as in only watches TV, works, and has nothing to say or planned).

...anyway, yeah to being open minded. a few relationships were unexpected and luckily they made the first move otherwise i wouldn't've. heh. the more i go along tho, the more i realize that i can't begin anticipating what i like or don't like, i just have to live it...but i'm a young person and this is the point of dating. if i was older i'd of course have a better set of ideas of what i'd want in a life-partner or parent of children i may have.

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Permalink Reply by Asablue on June 19, 2008 at 9:00pm

as long as they're awesome...I'm sold.

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Permalink Reply by digitalxsunrise on June 19, 2008 at 9:04pm

mhm, i agree with les. people who are interested capture my attention but i get tongue-tied or i just avoid them because i don't want to embarass myself. all races, religions, styles & cultures are attractive to me. i think just being yourself & being comfortable with who you are is the most attractive thing a person can possess.

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Permalink Reply by Bobby Digital on June 19, 2008 at 11:50pm

yea ur rite Jocelyn....by being yourself you can never go wrong cuz theres sum1 4 every1, besides i dnt see how any1 can be comfortable acting otherwise

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Permalink Reply by Love's Flight on June 20, 2008 at 3:52pm

I like men who are confident but not arrogant. A Gentlemen. Kind to self and others...On another note, Interestingly, I'm always surprised by the types of guys that are attracted to me. Like those who are more on the shy side for some reason. I never know that they like me until one of their friends tell me which really bugs me, lol. I like to think of myself as being very approachable. The fact that at times I can be rather shy too probably doesn't help either. Two passing wall flowers...

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Permalink Reply by the outsider on June 21, 2008 at 12:20am

I usually like guys that are confident and have a bit of a "rough edge" to them (but not abusive or criminal). I never really observed who is attracted because I'm usually clueless about these things but i do know that the main thing is the personality and the attitude. If the guy's a complete ass then there is no point in dating him. And, of course, as Hell Cat, the fact that the guy bathes regularly and doesn't beg you for cash is a definite prerequisite :-)

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Permalink Reply by Sekou on June 22, 2008 at 1:04am

not per se....but as mama told me "opposites attract, but similarities are everlasting

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Permalink Reply by K!m\m/ on June 22, 2008 at 2:47am

oooh.. i love this subject. it's a tricky one, and i hate being stereotypical about anything but here are some of the things i've learned about "types" black guys that have similar styles and music tastes usual go for other races... this is from my experience. i have been type- casted as a "white boy lover" because i'm not a typical black/mixed girl. i dont like what i'm suppose to like. i like allllll kinds of guys, and girls. it's all about the overall appearance (if we're talking first impressions and no conversations) going from there i love quirk, talent is always sexy in any area, and honesty is something i thrive on... now if i could only find a date... pfft.