"Because, sweety, we're Black...."

It's been on my mind for quite some time to start a discussion like this (if there's one like this already, sorry!), but I constantly wonder who else has gone through a similar situation: being told they can't do or be something because they're Black....by a Black individual/family member/etc!!

Speak out, rant, complain, whatever about your stories on why they said being Black "prevents" us from being who we really are.

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Permalink Reply by Hardwired on August 14, 2011 at 6:36pm

I was told that I couldn't bleach my hair. The guy who said it was the bouncer at my then favourite goth/alternative and DIY music venue - the Riverside (Newcastle). The guy was black and suggested that I get a flat top (I think they were popular in the US at that time). I ignored him of course.

A couple of years later I was told that I couldn't wear leather pants to my graduation night out. Of course I ignored him too.

Peace

Hardwired

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Permalink Reply by D'love on September 13, 2011 at 7:52pm

i've been shuned 4 most of my childhood because of the thing I do and liked..........

I'm doing the cartoonist thing now............ cartoons are for kids (Fritz the Cat, Cant Get there From Here, Daria,Heavy Metal,)...for kids?

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Permalink Reply by Yank on November 16, 2011 at 4:13pm

Wow, this is some depressing shit right here. I wonder why no one ever talks about this on a wider national forum?

Any smug academic racist who's full of convoluted genetic theories to explain lower black academic performance, or liberals who blame it all on crime, poverty and not enough gov't spending, needs to read this.

Kudos to all yall for breaking the mold.

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Permalink Reply by Brikachu on November 22, 2011 at 6:24pm

yeah...I can't date such and such because there family will never accept me

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Permalink Reply by Syzhorra Shand on January 20, 2012 at 11:15am

You can do anything you want to do, Its all about just being like " This makes me happy and I'm gonna do it" Just don't follow the stereotypes you know.

Before I did the big chop....I was scared as hell that people would talk about me ...that'd I'd be some ugly little black girl with nappy hair (I don't do anything but wash my hair...everyday) and then I owned it as this is me and this is a part of me . So far I've heard some negative comments but they've rolled off my shoulders.

@ Menk more of those genectic studies prove that blacks are more academically inclined towards science , math, the arts, and what not than whites if they were to be given the same opportunities. I can't stand people who base a person off of standardized tests and not real world anyway. If you consider how very small the black population is and how far we as a people have reached its mind blowing. even "thugs" are extremely intelligent people they just don't talk the way most people want them to . Not to toot my own horn but I literally passed all of my public schooling while asleep. All Honors courses completely bullshited but passed because I passed those tests. I have to wonder how many people went through the same thing but just had a bad attitude and then "ruined" there academic life...There are soo many factors its ridiculous

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Permalink Reply by Tinisha Brugnone on March 4, 2012 at 7:51am

I don't feel that my ethnicity has any limitations. I do feel that our social and economic status can make things more challenging. I feel empowered when I am in a room of others and I stand out like a sore thumb. I know my history although I learn more and more everyday, but that which I know is so full of resilience I could never feel like my color is a hinderance. I feel sorry for anyone who would tell another person they cannot do something because of the color of their skin.

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Permalink Reply by Peter B. on March 13, 2012 at 12:33am

Yes!!!! I felt like I was told to not be into a lot of thing because i was black! And it was bullshit! A few of those thing involve:

listening to heavy metal

skateboarding

being in a rock band

listening to rock in general

not listening to hip hop

not talking in slang

wearing skater clothes

People really should keep an open mind.

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Permalink Reply by Felicia on April 6, 2012 at 1:37am

I was never told I couldn't be a vegetarian because I was black, I was told that I shouldn't deny my instincts as a being on the top of the food chain....

conspicuious green said:

being a vegetarian once upon a time seemed to have a few people confused i have no idea why. But you're black?? is one of the dumbest things i've had said to me, if your not a stereotype your a confused coconut.

I remember when there was "no such thing" as gay black people