... the other Black experience
Being picked at by other black people
There's probably something like this in another thread.
I don't know about everyone else, but when I'm around other black people, certain ones, I feel MORE uncomfortable then I would if I was with a bunch of white people. I feel really unwelcome. I always feel like I'm being picked at.
I'll tell you all about this girl in my dance class at school, shes the epitome of judgmental and ignorant. Everyday she asks me "Where ya clothes at?" "You didn't feel like wearing clothes today??"
She says this because I like wearing dresses and skirts to school, I don't really like to wear jeans. The second time she asked I say "Ok, what are clothes to you?" She said "Something like what I'm wearing" I say "Well I don't like to pants"..........Like why are you so worried whether I'm cold or not, your not my mom lol Black girls do this to me alllll the time, "where ya clothes at????" Whats with that? Then later on she started talking about how she hasn't worn a dress in a while because shes so skinny shes afraid how she would look. Which, made me just feel bad for her, that she was probably criticizing me, because she wished she felt good enough to wear dresses and skirts everyday.
Heres another thing, black people criticizing MY FOOD. If your eating something they're unfamiliar with, its always, "Eww whats that??" "Why does it look like that" "Is it good?". I was eating greek yogurt around this girl a few days ago and shes all, "Ew whats wrong with your yogurt thats way too thick blah blah blah" Seriously.
Now, this is just one person, and one situation but things like this have happened to me too many times. Oh and let me say I am in COLLEGE and this girl is 20.
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on -
Once you get older, you learn to block out words that do not celebrate your existence . All things take time. It Is not a black thing, us black people tend to verbalize our inner thoughts aloud.
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Permalink Reply by Lloyd Lacy on -
I know how you feel hun. Most blacks are just plain ignorant period. It's best to just leave them alone. I feel we are better then them because we have seen the world and we will triumph over people like them because we are intellectuals and scholars of our generation. We have nothing to be ashamed about. Keep doing what your doing and be yourself. :D Much love.
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Permalink Reply by Lloyd Lacy on
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To most of those Blacks are savages and uncivilized and lack any ability to think act or do anything on there own.
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Permalink Reply by Fashionfreak on -
I get picked at by other black people but I feel equally uncomfortable around the wrong kind as well as being the only minority in a room. I don't feel less uncomfortable by either haha....but I def get you. The other day my co-worker made fun of my curly hair. It's sad really...
To be honest if I walk down my street and see a bunch of ghetto black guys I avoid them like the plague. When I'm on the train I read a book with my headphones to avoid hearing them etc. It's gotten to the point where it makes me sad that I have to duck from my own people! But seriously, I am jaded....
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Permalink Reply by Chris The Pusher on -
Allison
This is a very interesting post. I've dealt with with other black people like that girl quite a bit! You're out there on the east cost so I assumed that since there's more exposure to more things out there that you wouldn't come across something like that too often where, here in Oklahoma, I experience this practically everyday. It's too often that we as a people are so comfortable with how things are and quick to judge that we all seem to lose focus on the heart of things. This isn't just in the black community though. There's asians that act black and get it real bad from their parents. Granted, there's nothing wrong with people liking what they like and letting that influence who they are, but I'd have to add that we black people are probably the most copied people on the planet! So people who take it personal that we dont adhere to a culture that we've had to enduringly create for ourselves here in America have no idea of what being an individual even means.
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Permalink Reply by SANTANNA JOHNSON on -
Over the past sixteen years, I've sadly learned that someone like ourselves worst critic is other black people. Not true all the time,but surprisingly happening.
Just think about it this way, she probably wishes she had the gaul and courage to be herself.
Myself, I would tell her to shove it and het her own flair. :)
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Permalink Reply by Edward Banks on -
Yeah I get the same thing at my school. I throw white people and black people off. White people are thrown off because I'm well spoken and I like to read and keep to myself and not "ghetto/Hood". Then I have white people telling me I'm the whitest black person they know because of this and the music I listen to. I grew up with this type of crap and like you I thought the U.K. was better lol
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Permalink Reply by Candiik13 on -
People asked why you weren't being yourself?? Oh my goodness, I don't get angry very easily but if someone told me that I'd have to leave the room to keep from doing anything I may regret, though theres not much I could do being 5'2 and 100lbs lol And thank you so much! so sweet! :)
Devin Thorne said:
It does suck that when a Black person steps out side the crowd of the stereotypes of Music, Style, Way of Talking, Food, and Hobbies if its not Affliated with the Stereotypical black person it means we are "acting white". I have went though this my whole life. I used to be the Vocalist in a Band 2 blacks 3 whites, and people asked me why am I not being myself. I wouldnt be myself if i gave in to that negativity. I sometimes feel that Blacks are other Blacks Worst Enemies. I always hear we should unite, but when good black people try to be themselves, and actually do something meaningful then this whole Urban Trend we are the Traitors of the black race. I really stop carin because to me it's not giving respect to someone who is different. I have many friends of all races who like the same things i like we have alot in common, but I never see other Latinos telling my Latino friends they are posers. I always see blacks judging other blacks cause we dont give in to that BS Don't sweat it at the end of the day you are one Person You. Your really Pretty, and you sound like you have your head on your shoulders. :-)
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Permalink Reply by Candiik13 on
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Yes girl lol With the book thing. I had summer school last summer with a bunch of ghetto people that were 2 years younger then me to make it worse, during our breaks, I wouldn't talk to anyone and I would read by the steps so no one would talk to me, its kinda sad though. But, the girls in my class actually latched on to me after a while, probably cause I was the oldest so I did end up talking to them. Yeah, and some black guys....like the ones at my school, I go to community college, I walk by them real fast, I had a guy go "I LIKE YA RED HAIR GIRL" and I was thinking please please don't talk to me..
Fashionfreak said:
I get picked at by other black people but I feel equally uncomfortable around the wrong kind as well as being the only minority in a room. I don't feel less uncomfortable by either haha....but I def get you. The other day my co-worker made fun of my curly hair. It's sad really...
To be honest if I walk down my street and see a bunch of ghetto black guys I avoid them like the plague. When I'm on the train I read a book with my headphones to avoid hearing them etc. It's gotten to the point where it makes me sad that I have to duck from my own people! But seriously, I am jaded....
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Permalink Reply by Candiik13 on
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Thanks!
Yeah, me being on the east coast I think does help, the good thing is I've experienced alot of diversity wherever I go and theres a lot of different people I guess, I've never been anywhere in the midwest or south so I would have no idea :/
yeah they're just sad theyre too afraid to stand out
Chris The Pusher said:Allison
This is a very interesting post. I've dealt with with other black people like that girl quite a bit! You're out there on the east cost so I assumed that since there's more exposure to more things out there that you wouldn't come across something like that too often where, here in Oklahoma, I experience this practically everyday. It's too often that we as a people are so comfortable with how things are and quick to judge that we all seem to lose focus on the heart of things. This isn't just in the black community though. There's asians that act black and get it real bad from their parents. Granted, there's nothing wrong with people liking what they like and letting that influence who they are, but I'd have to add that we black people are probably the most copied people on the planet! So people who take it personal that we dont adhere to a culture that we've had to enduringly create for ourselves here in America have no idea of what being an individual even means.
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Permalink Reply by SANTANNA JOHNSON on
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It's quite absurd.
I've been called white girl and etc. BY OWN FAMILY.
WTF.
People ask me if I have an accent.LOL
I reply," I just know the proper use of the English language. Do you?".
....my mom is white, Cherokee and 20% black and still makes a fuss when I date outside my race skin is just that, skin.
Let that girl continue her time wasting effort to "blacken" you up while you fond out new things about yourself.
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Permalink Reply by Tara (Rebel to the Madness) on
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Age does not matter, older individuals will do the same thing. Adults can definitely be ignorant as well. Just continue being you. Love yourself and take care of your well being. :)
Candiik13 said:I find people don't really say much to me anymore either, but this was like a week ago and the first time I can remember since like 10th grade that I had someone just picking on everything I do, this girl is actually not totally bad but that ignorance needs to be worked on. Thats exactly how I felt I felt like I was in middle school again, I couldn't believe someone would be like this in college lol! Its ok to not agree with someone is doing but you don't have to vocalize it. I don't like the way she dresses, but I don't need to tell her about it. lol
Space Ghost said:I know your pain!
Luckily for me, people are too afraid of me to say anything anymore. :3 But they're cowards and they say stupid shit behind my back. They go for the whole "she's weird" aspect or they comment on my afro. It's stupid shit. I'm used to it (aka mentally numbed out) and I just disregard them.
I honestly think it's sad that people outside of high school are still up to their high school antics. Good luck!
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