There's probably something like this in another thread.
I don't know about everyone else, but when I'm around other black people, certain ones, I feel MORE uncomfortable then I would if I was with a bunch of white people. I feel really unwelcome. I always feel like I'm being picked at.
I'll tell you all about this girl in my dance class at school, shes the epitome of judgmental and ignorant. Everyday she asks me "Where ya clothes at?" "You didn't feel like wearing clothes today??"
She says this because I like wearing dresses and skirts to school, I don't really like to wear jeans. The second time she asked I say "Ok, what are clothes to you?" She said "Something like what I'm wearing" I say "Well I don't like to pants"..........Like why are you so worried whether I'm cold or not, your not my mom lol Black girls do this to me alllll the time, "where ya clothes at????" Whats with that? Then later on she started talking about how she hasn't worn a dress in a while because shes so skinny shes afraid how she would look. Which, made me just feel bad for her, that she was probably criticizing me, because she wished she felt good enough to wear dresses and skirts everyday.
Heres another thing, black people criticizing MY FOOD. If your eating something they're unfamiliar with, its always, "Eww whats that??" "Why does it look like that" "Is it good?". I was eating greek yogurt around this girl a few days ago and shes all, "Ew whats wrong with your yogurt thats way too thick blah blah blah" Seriously.
Now, this is just one person, and one situation but things like this have happened to me too many times. Oh and let me say I am in COLLEGE and this girl is 20.
It does suck that when a Black person steps out side the crowd of the stereotypes of Music, Style, Way of Talking, Food, and Hobbies if its not Affliated with the Stereotypical black person it means we are "acting white". I have went though this my whole life. I used to be the Vocalist in a Band 2 blacks 3 whites, and people asked me why am I not being myself. I wouldnt be myself if i gave in to that negativity. I sometimes feel that Blacks are other Blacks Worst Enemies. I always hear we should unite, but when good black people try to be themselves, and actually do something meaningful then this whole Urban Trend we are the Traitors of the black race. I really stop carin because to me it's not giving respect to someone who is different. I have many friends of all races who like the same things i like we have alot in common, but I never see other Latinos telling my Latino friends they are posers. I always see blacks judging other blacks cause we dont give in to that BS Don't sweat it at the end of the day you are one Person You. Your really Pretty, and you sound like you have your head on your shoulders. :-)
I also live in the UK (London).
General- I haven't had much stick since school. These days I find that if I don't fit in they just ignore me and I'm happy with that. What I do find funny is that every now and then one of them will approach me in private and ask me about my interests...as if it's taboo to talk to me.
Personal- However, what I find ironic is a lot (not all) of black guys say they don't like black girls because they act ghetto, wear weave etc and yet when the meet someone who doesn't reflect those stereotypes they're not interested.
From my perspective I'm damed if I do and damed if I don't. So I just keep it moving.
Aaron Denzel Akeredolu said:
Im very peleased someone had the initiative to start a thread discussing this issue of the aspects of racial identity within an alternative scene and the perceptions of others outside.
I know exactly what you mean,i feel like im constantly being scrutinized by other black males and people in genral just because i may not cater to a certain stereotype of the preconception of black males in the U.K. and its fucking awful (sorry to curse),i mean im still battling it as today.Its amazing how much this sort of issue contributes towards my low and depressive states on a regular basis honestly.Just because im a black male who just so happens to enjoy listening to hardcore and pop-punk and considers themselves quite integrated within the alternative scene, that somehow gives other black people ground to sctutinize and insult significantly.I dont necessarily know how it is in America per se but in London,the amount of black individuals who are so called ''punks'' and whatever is very scarce.It just bafffles me how a secular community can be so animalistic and spitefull towards their own people just because of the way they simply are.
If anybody is interested in this sort of issue of racial identity and misplacement within their own ethnic community then i'd suggest you check out the works of Osa Atoe (mrr columnist),she is an amazing individual i reccomend purchasing her various zines and stuff.
Weird that a teach would call a Light Skinned boy stupid. It's usually the other way around. Although I don't mean to take anything away from your experience. Maybe she was a little bitter.
2 working parents- I can relate. I use to get a lot of hassle over that. It reflectsthe psychological state of a lot of black people. When did Whites or Asians ever hate on each other for working for their money?
Mark Clemons said:
Try growing up being an Only Child in the 70's in my neighborhood with 2 working parents and being Light Skinned,I was the closest thing to looking White around there.I was considered the "Whiteboy" of the neighborhood,then going to a All Black Private School having a teacher call me Stupid and having the WHOLE CLASS doing it too,plus PHYSICAL & VERBAL ABUSE.Yall know something Mrs.Johnson PAID 4 how she treated me.SHES DEAD!!!!!!!!! ROT IN PIECES BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!