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how to respond to your lovers questions about your attire
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Tags: clothes, relationships
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on -
I appreciate your advice as well. Compromise is a dirty word, but we will contuine discussing the reason(s) as to why he is getting tire of my dress.
wmdekooning said:No that's not what I meant specifically, by style, "...a concept that has a moment and then disappears again".
If you gotta be Goth 24/7, I ain' mad at ya, if you can compromise (That dirty word!) and switch it up every once and a while.
Well, do what you gotta do.
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Permalink Reply by Trip Saibot on -
Haha If Skinny Puppy is devil music. I don't want to know what he listens to ha... Anyway. He should accept you for who you are and not how you look...
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Permalink Reply by DeAndre Woods on -
stay true to yourself hell either acept you soon enough or he wasnt worth your time in the first place
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Permalink Reply by Lunakiss on -
True you do have kids. However, your kids should be used as an excuse for him to overpower your way of life. Perhaps keep talking to him about it. Maybe he'll grow up eomtionally.
I'm so glad I'm single. I have zero tolerance for fakers.
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on
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Yes conversation is always needed and I appreciate your comment, yet understand that I must recall that he was never into the alternative lifestyle. Children play a major part in our relationship but I have yet and never will compromise what defines me. This is a character that he has always appreciated. Nevertheless, being single or being in a realtionship as it's ups and downs. It is all about being true to the core and being able to reflect on all areas of your strength and weakness.
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on
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Haitian Tightlacer said:Yes conversation is always needed and I appreciate your comment, yet understand that I must recall that he was never into the alternative lifestyle. Children play a major part in our relationship but I have yet and never will compromise what defines me. This is a character that he has always appreciated. Nevertheless, being single or being in a realtionship as it's ups and downs. It is all about being true to the core and being able to reflect on all areas of your strength and weakness.
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Permalink Reply by 20something on -
Dude's gotta go.
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Permalink Reply by AfroCuban on -
Dump him.
Why? B/C saying you dress like a "white" anything is b.s. and says more about the guy your withthan what you wear. I know a goth/punk woman that has a kid now, she's as dark and punk/goth as ever. In Portland, you see hipsters, goths, and others with their kids.
Well, you don't have to dump him, but why would he say it that particular way?
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on
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I want to thank everyone for their input. It seems people change. I will post a pic of me in typical attire and guess who took the pictures my life partner. He is a bit confusing at time, in one instant he hates my lifestyle and may even mock it the next he is snapping pics and engaging in some "unique" love motion. I am re-learning how to accept his ways.
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Permalink Reply by AfroCuban on
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If you can work it out, more power to you. But don't be co-dependent. Watch out for that.
Haitian Tightlacer said:I want to thank everyone for their input. It seems people change. I will post a pic of me in typical attire and guess who took the pictures my life partner. He is a bit confusing at time, in one instant he hates my lifestyle and may even mock it the next he is snapping pics and engaging in some "unique" love motion. I am re-learning how to accept his ways.
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Permalink Reply by Haitian Tightlacer on
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Yep. That is something I must always look out for because once a person becomes co-dependent All Hope is Gone sic! But really things become insane and sadness begins then the black clouds of despair controls a person's every move blah blah. And that is not really hip or good. Thanks for the look out
AfroCuban said:If you can work it out, more power to you. But don't be co-dependent. Watch out for that.
Haitian Tightlacer said:I want to thank everyone for their input. It seems people change. I will post a pic of me in typical attire and guess who took the pictures my life partner. He is a bit confusing at time, in one instant he hates my lifestyle and may even mock it the next he is snapping pics and engaging in some "unique" love motion. I am re-learning how to accept his ways.
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Permalink Reply by AfroCuban on
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Haitian Tightlacer said:
Yep. That is something I must always look out for because once a person becomes co-dependent All Hope is Gone sic! But really things become insane and sadness begins then the black clouds of despair controls a person's every move blah blah. And that is not really hip or good. Thanks for the look out
AfroCuban said:If you can work it out, more power to you. But don't be co-dependent. Watch out for that.
Haitian Tightlacer said:I want to thank everyone for their input. It seems people change. I will post a pic of me in typical attire and guess who took the pictures my life partner. He is a bit confusing at time, in one instant he hates my lifestyle and may even mock it the next he is snapping pics and engaging in some "unique" love motion. I am re-learning how to accept his ways.
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