I've Always Wanted An Afro Punk Boyfriend.

Ok, it is true. I guess I am at that time now where I have to be truthful with myself. My first step into adulthood.... stop lying to myself and admit to something that has been lurking around in the back of my mind. The Boyfriend.

I have always wanted an AP boyfriend. Not an internet boyfriend , but an actual guy. Instead of Prince Charming or that Ken doll ( ewww i've always been creeped out by him) I want a dude who likes rock ( which ever form it may be ) and just has good character. I mean I see dudes who aren't APs and while I may find them to be attractive physically ( telling the truth again) , I just can't see myself being with them. Some people call it a phase and say that you can't grow old with someone who likes teen music and wears his hair in a red mohawk. I find this to be rediculous because if you can love a man with a fade , you can love a man with a mohawk. Plus black men who like rock just seem to be ( SEEM TO BE , NOT THE CASE ALL OF THE TIME) a little more open minded .

Plus we would just have something in common. A lot of dudes who have approached me didn't share anything with me. They actually thought there was something wrong with me but because I am ( supposedly) "Pretty and Sexy" I was "dateable". Yeah. NEXT.

And I may be wrong for saying this but AP guys are better looking. I don't know what it is? I just find them to be beautiful. To go through the things that APs go through on a daily basis and still some out doing what you do is something that I look up to. No amount of cookie cutter pretty boy could ever catch my attention the way an intelligent, strong AP does.

Tags: AP, beautiful, dudes

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Permalink Reply by Ducks in Helicopters on April 21, 2011 at 10:51pm

It's not so much about being attractive as it is the area you live in. I live in an area in Maryland that was literally created for interracial relationships, and the schools I went to were heavily diverse. I don't think I ever really thought about race much until college.

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Permalink Reply by Spookycreep on April 22, 2011 at 6:18am

Audrey Alesia said:

It had to have been nice to be with some one that "gets you". I think that's what I miss the most in life.

Best thing ever, and hard to come by. I dated a latino punk/rockabilly guy (not quite an AP guy, but yeah) for a short stint (wish I hadn't broken up with him in a psycho wench manner...oops!) and it was excellent. Talkin on the phone for hours cause we actually had a lot in common, not getting sick of each other, and wanting to jump him at all hours. Yes! Never got around to that...but eh.

Now I am dating a corporate-ish white guy. Different with difficulties? Yes and yes but I'm trying to make it work.

An AP fella, sounds nice.

You sound nice too. "corporate-ish"? Help him.

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Permalink Reply by Fashionfreak on April 22, 2011 at 3:58pm

hmm interesting. well since someone brought up hispanic dudes they are the ones I seem to attract the most...I never really dated a white guy only one and he was half italian (the other half puerto rican).

overall race isn't really an issue as long as I have something in common with the person....and though i've had my share of assholes of the black persuasion i still love black guys. but i usually find that a) if they are hood they want a hood black girl, a latin girl, or a black girl that is light skin, mixed w/e.....b) if they are conservative they want a conservative black girl or a conservative non-black girl.....c) if they are alternative they want a non-black alternative girl or if they are the afrocentric type they want the closest thing to erykah badu.

just an observation.

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Permalink Reply by Rosenda on April 22, 2011 at 7:56pm

GRRRL, you are so RIGHT ON THE MONEY!!!! That's exactly who I want too. It's true, that could be anybody. ;)

Ducks in Helicopters said:

When it comes down to it, I just want a guy who will get my randomness and weird ways, make me laugh, treat me right, blahblahblargh...

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Permalink Reply by lyfenlyn on April 23, 2011 at 7:10pm

( clears throat ) Dwayne lives in WISCONSIN

Rosenda said:

Spacey, you never know where life will take you in the future. You might get out of Wisconsin some day, say in your college years, and then you'll meet the AP sort of dude. As Fats Waller sung it.............ONE NEVER KNOWS, DO ONE? ;)

Space Ghost said:
There are no AP's here in good ol wisconsin. Maybe it's just because I'm 17 and don't get "out" much. I dunno. But yeah. There was one boy at my highschool but he was kind of a dick and seemed like the "educated/proud but still a happy negro" type. I don't want any parts of that I just don't get approached much. In fact, if a black guy approaches me, he's nice until we get into some kind of conversation and then its like "LOL CYA!". I'm dating a puerto rican at the moment and he's not afropunk of course, but he's open minded and we're taking it slow. It's not bad. (I guess my emotions/comfort really do come before physical looks because I've never been attracted to hispanic guys)

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Permalink Reply by lyfenlyn on April 23, 2011 at 7:13pm

Its so funny how they typecast women and you cant just be. That if you dont walk around in a costume to attract them they cant see you. Just like if I dont wear my hair natural an AP guy wont give me a second look even if I am wearing a CBGB shirt
Fashionfreak said:

hmm interesting. well since someone brought up hispanic dudes they are the ones I seem to attract the most...I never really dated a white guy only one and he was half italian (the other half puerto rican).

overall race isn't really an issue as long as I have something in common with the person....and though i've had my share of assholes of the black persuasion i still love black guys. but i usually find that a) if they are hood they want a hood black girl, a latin girl, or a black girl that is light skin, mixed w/e.....b) if they are conservative they want a conservative black girl or a conservative non-black girl.....c) if they are alternative they want a non-black alternative girl or if they are the afrocentric type they want the closest thing to erykah badu.

just an observation.

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Permalink Reply by Vicki FM aka "DaFuqJustHappen" on April 23, 2011 at 7:30pm

Heh this is kinda like me. I've only had one boyfriend in my life and it's not like he was the AP type at all( it's not like that's a must. If I like you I like you). But interests is something I would look for i guess. I mean I want someone who can tolerate the stuff I like and listen to. I mean there're probably are black guys in my area that listens to the type of music I like. I recently meet this guy well I had talked to him before but I found out he listened to rock(not sure if he's into heavy stuff) but that was a plus. I don't like to judge a person by looks. I may say that there's nothing but a bunch of hip-hop listener black folks in my town but I never know. I would have to get to know one to find out. But I still dream of that ideal guy, AP or not.