MEN.. NO BLACK MEN LOLOL

Okay well we all know for a fact that men have egos.. and really big ones depending on the man.. now when it comes to african american men.. idk what it is but there egos cant be duplicated to any other nationality. but my rumbling is all for a reason.. i am currently dating this dude right.. and he is a few years older than me.. now i constantly feel like i am not doing enough or i always feel guilty for not doing enough.. Its mainly because he has constantly been telling me that im not doing enough.. which doesnt make any sense to me , because i am trying my hardest to be the best woman that i can be. Which also doesnt make sense because if he introduced me to any of his friends i would be victoria.. and not his woman. which doesnt make any sense to me.. but like the usual me could just leave him alone, if hes not acting right.. but with him... he would tell me the most off the wall thing or do something crazy to me.. and i would just except it and keep going with the relationship.. and i dont think that its healthy at all.. but im scared to leave him alone.. and im kinda in this puzzle of confusion.. idk what im going to do about this..

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Permalink Reply by Miss Lashea on February 3, 2010 at 4:50pm

Sounds like he doesn't appreciate the things that you are doing....If I were you, I would leave him alone if he didn't change his ways...I was dealing with the same thing but once my bf saw that I wasn't kidding about him changing his ways, he changed his tune then....and now he is working on his ish....but he still ain't off the hook yet.

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Permalink Reply by Miss Lashea on February 3, 2010 at 4:51pm

And I don't understand the title of your discussion..."men...no black men" ?

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Permalink Reply by V on February 3, 2010 at 11:29pm

He sounds like a manipulative person. I think you should just slowly distance yourself and let that mess go. Nothing is worse than being with someone for a long time and feeling like you should stay because of the time spent there. Don't waste time; there are people out there who don't do that crazy stuff [my ex was similar].

Also, when it comes to the whole ego thing. It can be a good thing, but this guy just seems to be an ass.

Don't suck up to him. Let your next partner feel big and bad, but make sure he flaunts you as someone who's big and bad also just because you're associated with him. [see now that's the good kind of ego haha]

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Permalink Reply by Madamoiselle De Sade on February 4, 2010 at 7:26am

Exactly! This ties into the overwhelming majority of people thinking that kind of bait and switch is okay. And the reason why some many girls/women get "caught up".

lyfenlyn said:

Pimps are nice too when you first meet them
victoria diane ligons said:
okay this is the main thing that i am scared of .... in the beginning , he wasnt like this.. like he was such a nice guy,.. and everything happened so smoothly, and it was pratically close to perfect. Then idk he started to change.. and the only reason why i am waisting my time, is because i am trying to get that old man back... i miss that side of him..