Sexual stereotypes good or bad?

This is an age old question that wont be answered to everyone's satifaction. So when i do watch porn at times I see black women labeled as Ebony, horny, nasty etc.. Black women are paired with white guys and were a fetish mostly to some men not all. I remember being in my old history class called African American women, in this class we talked about how black women are sapphire's, sexual creatures, etc etc... So my point is Are we only seen as sexual creatures? Can we be seen not only as sexy but human as well? I think about this sometimes. Aside from black women there are asain sterotypes of women as submissive and anime, white women are wild and freaky, spanish women are spicy and exotic. It is not just women but men ; black men are mandingo's with huge dicks and sexual beasts, white guys are freaky and adventrous, asain men have small dicks but are exoitc. It is an ugly truth but we give into sexual stereotypes based upon society's image and perspective. I admit I have given in as well but I am open to change. I dont want to be a slave of society, I want to date the person not the race or their sexual stereotype. I have a lot of work to do but being open to changing these things seems like some light at the end of the tunnel. Anyway, these stereotypes aren't going anywhere and they are a part of the society we live in but we have to get to a point where we say Fuck them I am gonna live for me. I hope to get to that point soon enough .

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Permalink Reply by kifaru on July 11, 2011 at 4:07pm

I don't think stereotypes are good because they either lower or raise the expectations of the people being stereotyped and the people who might buy into them. The stereotypes that are put on black women in this society much much more impactful than the stereotypes about other women because black women have no non-negative stereotypes.

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Permalink Reply by Compound Egret on July 12, 2011 at 12:38am

Sexual stereotypes are no good, especially if people are expecting others to live up to them.

It's not helpful to take your cues from pr0n. No one producing it is trying to give you any sort of balanced or nuanced picture of anyone. Check out a copy of Black Enterprise. They have a lot of features Black women achieving all sorts of things, usually related to small business.

In the meantime check out

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ursula_Burns

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mellody_Hobson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Majora_Carter

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mae_Jemison

Are you only seen as a sexual creature? It depends on how you present yourself and who you are presenting yourself to. I can't help but think about the other thread you posted about white dudes. If you are just throwing yourself at dudes physically, they WILL just see you as a sexual creature.

Good luck.

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Permalink Reply by Mark Clemons on July 12, 2011 at 4:37am

it's all BULLSHIT!!!!!!!! Black Women give Head as much as White women do.Just not with Everyone!

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Permalink Reply by blaqvenus on July 12, 2011 at 9:15pm

Depends on the individual and how they want to express themselves. However, if you get all your knowledge from stereotypes that is ignorant.

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Permalink Reply by Eris on July 13, 2011 at 1:44am

Hmm, when I think stereotype, I often think of negative connections so to ask if they are good or bad, I will always say BAD.

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Permalink Reply by Mäkkonen on July 13, 2011 at 5:15am

I feel all/any preconceived notions of a people are terrible--even the ones seen as positive(see:smart Asians). its also very dehumanising to assume any one individual is capable of doing(or not) something solely based on their race.

A personal example is when I was younger,I caught hell when HIV was announced to be an "African thing". I was on a date at the age of 19 or so, and I brought up that i visit Ethiopia often--the girl quickly made a comment on HIV.

As a result of this i was left pretty damaged. To the point where even though knowing I had not had intercourse of any sort that time. I was compelled to get myself tested (just in case my parents were hiding something), just being that widespread faux-fact that all Africans have HIV.--I quit talking to her soon after as well.

Back to the subject--Its just disrespectful to any woman/man to assume knowledge of how they are sexually.I feel a thing that private should not be just put up in open conversation. Nor do i feel anyone should have a label letting other know what to expect. That's just ridiculous.

Women are more than sex and,I think one should reject any thing that tries to "exotify". Even more so when Blacks have been in this country since its inception.

How long does a neighbor have to sit around before they are seen as normal human being? I have not any other views out of the norm of black women, being that im your counterpart. So I cannot say I do see you as a sex thing. But if i were to look to media at large,it seems so.I'm just truly sad that talking about these sort of things changes nothing.

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Permalink Reply by Bosanova Bill on July 13, 2011 at 7:25am

If your taking your sex/sexuality clues just from porn that's NOT good. There is some highbrow porn that probably doesn't play to those conventions though. But for what it's worth I'm attracted to big bottoms and big boobs, no matter the race. I just happen to like Big black boobs and butts more.

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Permalink Reply by Oba Richards on July 13, 2011 at 8:08am

Pussy will make u cum
Is that a stereotype?
Women like to fuck just like men
When talking bout sex its called a fetish, something that was done out of curiosity
Sex Stereotypes leave you anticipating, which can lead to blue balls.

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Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on July 14, 2011 at 2:14pm

your right! it does depend on how i am presenting myself. Thanks I am opening up to change:)

Compound Egret said:

Sexual stereotypes are no good, especially if people are expecting others to live up to them.

It's not helpful to take your cues from pr0n. No one producing it is trying to give you any sort of balanced or nuanced picture of anyone. Check out a copy of Black Enterprise. They have a lot of features Black women achieving all sorts of things, usually related to small business.

In the meantime check out

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ursula_Burns

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mellody_Hobson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Majora_Carter

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mae_Jemison

Are you only seen as a sexual creature? It depends on how you present yourself and who you are presenting yourself to. I can't help but think about the other thread you posted about white dudes. If you are just throwing yourself at dudes physically, they WILL just see you as a sexual creature.

Good luck.

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Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on July 14, 2011 at 2:18pm

thanks for sharing your story it was pretty moving. Your wrong talking changes things , my prespective on how were viewed is changing a little by your comment as to not seeing me as just a sexual being.

Das Mako said:

I feel all/any preconceived notions of a people are terrible--even the ones seen as positive(see:smart Asians). its also very dehumanising to assume any one individual is capable of doing(or not) something solely based on their race.

A personal example is when I was younger,I caught hell when HIV was announced to be an "African thing". I was on a date at the age of 19 or so, and I brought up that i visit Ethiopia often--the girl quickly made a comment on HIV.

As a result of this i was left pretty damaged. To the point where even though knowing I had not had intercourse of any sort that time. I was compelled to get myself tested (just in case my parents were hiding something), just being that widespread faux-fact that all Africans have HIV.--I quit talking to her soon after as well.

Back to the subject--Its just disrespectful to any woman/man to assume knowledge of how they are sexually.I feel a thing that private should not be just put up in open conversation. Nor do i feel anyone should have a label letting other know what to expect. That's just ridiculous.

Women are more than sex and,I think one should reject any thing that tries to "exotify". Even more so when Blacks have been in this country since its inception.

How long does a neighbor have to sit around before they are seen as normal human being? I have not any other views out of the norm of black women, being that im your counterpart. So I cannot say I do see you as a sex thing. But if i were to look to media at large,it seems so.I'm just truly sad that talking about these sort of things changes nothing.

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Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on July 14, 2011 at 2:19pm

LOL

Oba Richards said:

Pussy will make u cum
Is that a stereotype?
Women like to fuck just like men
When talking bout sex its called a fetish, something that was done out of curiosity
Sex Stereotypes leave you anticipating, which can lead to blue balls.

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Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on July 14, 2011 at 2:20pm

I want to thank everyone for their comments! It gives me a lot to change about myself and think about. That is why i write to see other points of views and open my mind a bit more. Thank you all.