Sexual stereotypes good or bad?

This is an age old question that wont be answered to everyone's satifaction. So when i do watch porn at times I see black women labeled as Ebony, horny, nasty etc.. Black women are paired with white guys and were a fetish mostly to some men not all. I remember being in my old history class called African American women, in this class we talked about how black women are sapphire's, sexual creatures, etc etc... So my point is Are we only seen as sexual creatures? Can we be seen not only as sexy but human as well? I think about this sometimes. Aside from black women there are asain sterotypes of women as submissive and anime, white women are wild and freaky, spanish women are spicy and exotic. It is not just women but men ; black men are mandingo's with huge dicks and sexual beasts, white guys are freaky and adventrous, asain men have small dicks but are exoitc. It is an ugly truth but we give into sexual stereotypes based upon society's image and perspective. I admit I have given in as well but I am open to change. I dont want to be a slave of society, I want to date the person not the race or their sexual stereotype. I have a lot of work to do but being open to changing these things seems like some light at the end of the tunnel. Anyway, these stereotypes aren't going anywhere and they are a part of the society we live in but we have to get to a point where we say Fuck them I am gonna live for me. I hope to get to that point soon enough .

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Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on July 14, 2011 at 2:34pm

True true.

Mark Clemons said:

it's all BULLSHIT!!!!!!!! Black Women give Head as much as White women do.Just not with Everyone!

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Permalink Reply by Audrey Johnson on July 14, 2011 at 3:05pm

Society stereotypes everybody. When I say everybody, it's everybody (Black people, White people, Asians, Pacific Islander, Middle Easterns, Teens, Old people, Men, Women, Tall people, Short people, Fat people, Christians, Atheists, Vegetarians, Vegans, Punks, Goths, Emos, Geeks, Nerds, Tattooed people and more). The sad thing is that a lot of people buy it because they're afraid of what they do not know. A lot of medias do not help. After all they give what people want to see.

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Permalink Reply by Darkness Unlimited* on July 16, 2011 at 6:28am

If they help you in getting some or getting more, they're good, obviously.

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Permalink Reply by Tendai Muzwidzwa on July 16, 2011 at 10:31am

Stereotypes tend to be wrong a majority of the time . Personally my sexuality wouldn't be the " typical black girls " thing and neither would what I like be . When I started dating my boyfriend i thought wow he is quite and quite vanilla just because he was a nerd .i am happy I was proven wrong

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Permalink Reply by Tendai Muzwidzwa on July 16, 2011 at 10:31am

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Permalink Reply by Eris on July 17, 2011 at 8:55pm

Growing up, I remember AIDS being seen as both an 'African' thing and a 'Gay male' thing. Now that I think about it, most of the AIDS educational tools we were shown as little kids had nothing but white young males who either caught it due to blood transfusions. We were always told about getting AIDS from unprotected sex and drugs and the closest thing to 'AIDS is an African thing' was how AIDS was found in poor, inner city black neighborhoods. This might have been because our teachers focused more on the impact of how AIDS effected the US (Fort Wayne after all was the state of Ryan White). My mom was the one who told me about how a lot of focus was put on AIDS and Africa as well as the fear that came from it. It wasn't until a little later in elementary school we were taught how AIDS effects Africa but for the longest, it was still shown to be either be a blood transfusion, bad sex and gay 'thing' which is a stereotype, if you're implying that anyone who is gay or has blood-transfusions has HIV/AIDS.

Das Mako said:

I feel all/any preconceived notions of a people are terrible--even the ones seen as positive(see:smart Asians). its also very dehumanising to assume any one individual is capable of doing(or not) something solely based on their race.

A personal example is when I was younger,I caught hell when HIV was announced to be an "African thing". I was on a date at the age of 19 or so, and I brought up that i visit Ethiopia often--the girl quickly made a comment on HIV.

As a result of this i was left pretty damaged. To the point where even though knowing I had not had intercourse of any sort that time. I was compelled to get myself tested (just in case my parents were hiding something), just being that widespread faux-fact that all Africans have HIV.--I quit talking to her soon after as well.

Back to the subject--Its just disrespectful to any woman/man to assume knowledge of how they are sexually.I feel a thing that private should not be just put up in open conversation. Nor do i feel anyone should have a label letting other know what to expect. That's just ridiculous.

Women are more than sex and,I think one should reject any thing that tries to "exotify". Even more so when Blacks have been in this country since its inception.

How long does a neighbor have to sit around before they are seen as normal human being? I have not any other views out of the norm of black women, being that im your counterpart. So I cannot say I do see you as a sex thing. But if i were to look to media at large,it seems so.I'm just truly sad that talking about these sort of things changes nothing.