Taking A Break later posts by me, my progress.

(12-20-08)I just corrected a line I didn't realized that I left words of of.

My family advised me not to go to his party or talk to him regularly IE daily (he usually immed me) b/c what he said hurt my feelings. He did apologize, but he missed the window of opportunity to where it could have looked sincere. I did apologize, but that's when he felt it was best to take a break. His lost. :P

I do care if he doesn't come back, but I'll get over it. He seems ok with not having me around. But I dunno. I assume that he's angry that I'm not ruining my life just to have him like the other girls he's dated.
That and he's angry b/c I hurt his ego with the situation he could have averted by not putting his foot in his mouth.

I think that might change all these posts....

I'm currently dating someone right now. Everything was fine even after we ended up seeing each other every week.
When I was trying to set up a day where he could meet my friends (I was leading to that revelation), he said that he had some worries that I might becoming too attached to him too early.

Now flash forward to Sunday. His birthday party. I didn't show up b/c even after he corrected himself that we should take things slow (he really hurt my feelings), I was advised not to show up by my family. It sent him some signals however. I'm not sure what kind of signals.

I told him why I haven't seen him on that day nor talked to him lately. I was basically giving him his space that he wanted.
He then said that what my family suggested wasn't a bad thing and to give it time.

He voiced that he needed a break from our relationship.

Now when you say 'I need a break'. Does that mean you want to break up with the person or does it really mean, "I need some breathing space?"

I'm just curious on the different perspectives on this matter.

I've been in a 'I need a break' sort of thing before so I know how to handle it. I'll let him be. I just dunno if my current emotion is the best one for this situation.

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Permalink Reply by MER on December 21, 2008 at 7:06pm

I read up on facebook and it doesn't show every one of your friend's updates, only a select few at random. So there's a chance that he hasn't blocked me.

So with that being said, I'm on the fence between de-friending him to get his attention or having a nice chat with him like my big brother (friend who's like family) suggested.

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Permalink Reply by MER on December 29, 2008 at 8:45am

Well, I deleted him from my facebook and myspace accounts. It felt like a weight having him there. He never tried to strike a nice conversation like he used to. I have to treat our relationship like a friendship. If someone's clearly ignoring you, they don't want to be your friend.
So I deleted him. yesterday (2 days after deletion) he immed me.
I'll let you bare witness his assholerly. I know I don't have to, but I want to tell the world how I stuck up for myself and didn't turn obedient.
Plus he's still in denial that we had any type of relationship, even in the loosely based kind. How weird is that?

Btw, I'm SmilingBears

K.S. (1:53:06 AM): you defriended me on facebook? oh my god, are we in 9th grade?
K.S.(1:53:55 AM): you must be kidding
smilingbears (1:55:16 AM): well you did stop talking to me, so I figured you moved on
K.S. (1:55:39 AM): do you normally defriend people who stop talking to you on facebook?
smilingbears (1:55:47 AM): yes
K.S. (1:55:54 AM): plus, there was no moving on, like I said a million times, we were not a couple
smilingbears (1:56:02 AM): that's fine
smilingbears (1:56:04 AM): we're not
K.S (1:56:20 AM): keep on truckin'
smilingbears (1:56:33 AM): exactly we go on with our lives
K.S. (1:56:51 AM): okay bye
smilingbears (1:56:54 AM): bye

For a man to be all sweet and turn into an ass next minute, I prefer NOT to be his friend. My facebook is to be filled with friends and acquaintances who I KNOW would like to hear from me. I'm better off not knowing his business nor having him around. I actually couldn't care less knowing what he's doing.
I haven't decided on whether or not I acknowledge his existence in person or not.
You know, *Wave* and a "Hi" and move on type of thing. No conversation, either.

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Permalink Reply by MER on December 29, 2008 at 2:04pm

Then it's settled. Don't acknowledge his presence unless he does first.
It feels like everything's going back to the way they were. Neither one of us acknowledged each others' presence.

I might be repeating myself, but why be in a friendship when there's no ground of any type of relationship to be based on? Bitch's a fool. I dunno why he's even dating if he's not going to take it seriously.
Sure dating's fun, but if you have no intention of taking it further with ANYONE, why in the hell do it?

It's like poking a lion. Lol.