... the other Black experience
Unwarranted aggression from a fellow Afro Punk/Rocker
I went to a gig with a couple of friends and headed straight for the bar. I remember feeling like I was being squashed up against the rail. I turned around to see that this mixed race guy had his upper arm presses against my back. I figured it was just because it was packed out that night. I shuffled over and so did he. Figured I was just being paranoid and I didn’t want to act like ‘the crazy black bitch’ (yes, I’m a little conscious of being perceived that way).
Throughout the night, if I was talking to someone he knew he would interrupt the conversation and then body block me out of the conversation.
Would you believe that just a few days later this guy was at the studios where I work and I’ve seen him around a few times since. I’ve attempted to make eye contact to see if I could figure him out. But each time he’s either turned his back to me or pretended to be on the phone.
I haven’t mentioned this to any of my colleagues because I think I’d just make myself look like the psycho. His aggressive devices are so subtle.
You might wonder why I care if he doesn’t like me. Well, I don’t care if he doesn’t like me however I don’t like that he is prepared to take the extra step to stop me building friendships with other people.
Any insight into this situation would be well received.
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Permalink Reply by Fashionfreak on -
wow this sounds like a case of 'i want to be the only black person in the room and anyone else will steal my spotlight' it's pretty petty and i've dealt with it before but not to the extent that he has. more than likely if he only does that around ppl but avoids you in person he is a pussy. honestly i would confront him not in a rude way tho.....
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Permalink Reply by Hekau on -
Well it sounds like this unfortunate has low self esteem otherwise he'd let you just be while building friendships with others. I'd recommend continue to build your relationships and if he body blocks you (make sure it's visible to everyone your talking to), then say "Oh, I'm sorry was there something you need to add after my conversation?" Make sure he it said in a tone that isn't too abrasive. The key is to make sure you're around others when he's rude and you won't have to worry about having to mention it to your colleagues, they'll know that he's being a jerk, then and only then can you find out what his deal is. Yeah, these things take time. Again, the key is get people on your side by letting them see him do his rudeness otherwise, it's just a case of he said she said. Hope that helps. In the end he might just like you and have an awkward way of showing it. ;-)
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Permalink Reply by Darkness Unlimited* on -
Bitch-ass nigga just sounds hateful for no good reason. Fuck 'um.
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Permalink Reply by Darkness Unlimited* on
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Yeah, what's up with THAT bullshit?! I think it's nice as Hell whenever i see another "black alt." . Just might be the type ov nigga i could actually have a conversation with. Sheeesh!
Fashionfreak said:wow this sounds like a case of 'i want to be the only black person in the room and anyone else will steal my spotlight' it's pretty petty and i've dealt with it before but not to the extent that he has. more than likely if he only does that around ppl but avoids you in person he is a pussy. honestly i would confront him not in a rude way tho.....
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Permalink Reply by kifaru on -
I'll second that.
Darkness Unlimited* said:Bitch-ass nigga just sounds hateful for no good reason. Fuck 'um.
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Permalink Reply by Ghettopunkrocker on -
Wow...what an asshole.
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Permalink Reply by LesYpersound on -
I agree w/ Hekau -- Ask him what's his problem OR if he body blocks you from talking to a mutual acquaintance again ask the person you were talking to later what the heck that was all about in prep to confronting him w/ the goal of having him sincerely leave you the fuck alone.
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Permalink Reply by Darkness Unlimited* on
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Also, it is possible that he's just one ov those douchy pricks who gets a rise out ov pushing around girls, but bitches up the moment someone HIS OWN SIZE comes around.
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Permalink Reply by Tara (Rebel to the Madness) on
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My interpretation of what you have written above, Christina is this individual wants your attention for some reason. Like someone has mentioned he may like you and this is his way of showing it. Also you have described that you see him at the place you work, obviously you two are meant to meet each other. Talk to the individual, just introduce yourself and ask simply what is your name. Stay cautious though because of your previous interaction with him.
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Permalink Reply by Christina on -
He's married. So now I'm thinking more along the lines of Bitch Ass
Tara (Rebel to the Madness) said:My interpretation of what you have written above, Christina is this individual wants your attention for some reason. Like someone has mentioned he may like you and this is his way of showing it. Also you have described that you see him at the place you work, obviously you two are meant to meet each other. Talk to the individual, just introduce yourself and ask simply what is your name. Stay cautious though because of your previous interaction with him.
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Permalink Reply by Christina on
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I need to start scouting for a loyal male member of the team. See if that will keep his ass in check.
Darkness Unlimited* said:
Also, it is possible that he's just one ov those douchy pricks who gets a rise out ov pushing around girls, but bitches up the moment someone HIS OWN SIZE comes around.
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