weaves vs. fros

so make this quick. my brother mentioned how "you know how you can't touch a black womans hair." i don't know how we came to that statement but i said " i don't fuck with chics like that i'd rather an afropunk type of chic." he then says to me that black woman who don't wear weaves and wigs are the one who grew up with white folks so nobody was around to teach them about that stuff. i was like; nah nigga you buggin you been in DE to long. in hindsight i think he was offended because his wife is a weave monster. i mean personally i think weaves and wigs look pretty foolish on many woman and that the whole obsession with straight hair is likely white envy and self hatred at worst. what would my natural sisters have said to my ignorant brother?

Tags: afros, envy., hair, natural, race, relations, weaves, white

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Permalink Reply by Fashionfreak on January 29, 2012 at 3:32am

i dont wear weaves....my hair is curly/kinky fro or straightened and my boyfriend can touch that shit all day if he wants. that stereotype is dumb.

But if a girl has on a weave or a wig I don't blame her for not wanting him to touch cuz thats embarassing...

I think also not speaking for everyone that many resort to these wigs bc they feel they themselves may never grow their own hair that long when all it really takes is education and care. I used to think the same but once I educated myself in black hair care man my shit grew like wildfire. Now I'm pushing mid-back length hair (wish I had pics) but anyway you get the point. Let's keep it real ladies...if we can't see your hairline that stuff look TOW UP!

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Permalink Reply by Tabatha on January 31, 2012 at 10:13pm

I guess I never knew that the option of natural hair was there for me until I was about 18. Ever since I can remember my mother was putting perms in my hair or taking me to the salon to get one whenever that new growth would come in, and my hair wasn't silky smooth any more. It was not even in my thought process to say, "hey maybe I should grow out my hair naturally" getting relaxers was the natural thing for females in my family. And if I did not feel like getting one, mommy would have a fit, and make me go get one. It was not till one day, the hair dresser put a dam super perm in my hair and burned the crap outta me, i was like why the FUCK, would I pay $68 dollars to have someone burn the fuck outta my head. Wish I would have had that epiphany sooner.

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Permalink Reply by Rosenda on February 5, 2012 at 12:12am

It's also a choice of what info and services are available to you where you live. You can find salons with stylists to fix your straightened hair and tons of products for straightened hair everywhere but until the Internet you had a hard time finding a willing stylist who knew how to treat your natural cut right. Took me til 2001 to find a stylist who did NOT say "I dont know what to do but press or relax it" or "girl your hairs so thick, it would be easier to straighten it. Thank God for the internet and my friend Denise. She took it seriously and learned what she needed to do flat twists. By the time my hair grew more, I found all kinds of cool info and products online. Even how to make some of your own products to style.

A lot of women are scared to go natural cause it ain't easy at first to go from longer smooth hair to nappy curly hair and feel good about yourself. Even if you are surrounded by black folks all the time. Mofos will clown you for going natural or taking out a weave if they used to you doing it before. Women especially.

Not that it matters now, but I used to get ugly stares from older Sistas my age. And younger sisters would whisper to me on the street "I love your hair!" like they were embarrassed to admit they liked a black female with non straight hair. My friend Kimmi noticed this too recently when she took off the wig and all that and went natural. Why is that?

Brothers may do the same thing, some may like the straight look and some may like the natural look.

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Permalink Reply by X-D-D-M*9 on February 11, 2012 at 3:26pm

I prefer the various styles of natural hair Black women express. You have complete right to do as you wish with your hair and body but natural, unchemically-treated or straightened styles are much more attractive to me.

Comes down to my mother and family members who have or had natural styles, where I grew up & the times and what I've been exposed to. What I've been able to to see from the USA, Caribbean, South America, Europe and women from Africa gets me wide open. So many of those styles are fly & sexy.

I do believe most women and men in the USA are more influenced by Euro-American standards than they admit or know. The fact the original poster's brother stated "you know can't touch a Black woman's hair" goes into the fact that the majority of Black American women chemically striaghten their hair and we have accepted that as the standard. Does this represent the rest of the world? What did Black women do with their hair over 200, 1000 years ago? Are we going to try vainly again to reach to 'Egypt' and some sample wigs and state that this style was common across Egypt or the African continent?

We gotta be honest with each other. If you dig Euro styles of hair and put a Afro-pean twist on it, so be it. I like some styles of European clothing and I admit that, also I like many international styles. Still I won't do anything to alter my physical being to look more European/white because of my own and historical experiences.

Everyone can do themselves. But we have to be honest about what drives & influences those decisions.

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Permalink Reply by anthony on February 22, 2012 at 12:29pm

haha. sensitive about weaves i see. i ain't even gonna mention colored contacts then.

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Permalink Reply by anthony on March 26, 2012 at 2:11pm

how they wear THEIR hair? haha.

DuskTilDawn said:

I completely agree with this. Who are you to tell someone else THEIR reasons for wanting to do whatever the fuck they want to do , stop judging and worry about your own damn self lol ....

Phactz said:

If you judge someone based on how they wear there hair, you're an asshole and part of the fuckin' problem.