... the other Black experience
so every white guy i met which is the total of three have liked me and it appeared we were dating with the long phone calls etc but then it stops. I know part of it is me cause i wear my heart on my sleeve and mention my feelings for them too soon and it is too much for them and plus i think i am just a black girl fantasy to them. its interesting i mean i am in white boy phase.. its like i am the best of both worlds for them.. i am black and "white" cause i listen to rock or like certain sports... but i never get to go out in public with them? people have told me there are white guys out there into sisters but where are they? or prehaps this field isnt for me and my aim is narrow ... love should not be based on one color of men and i should just let whoever ( whatever race) come and love me. Anyway white guys have hurt me the most it seems.. i mean the irish guy , we talked and then friend told me he told did her roomates the same things as me but i never confronted him but rejected him with an email and left and he poped in and out my life and then we were suppose to meet up but he stood me up.. now i think i broke his heart and he wanted to do the same to mine idk.. he told me "everyone knowns i am a asshole !" like its an excuse.. after him i changed and met this other guy and i lost my good girl image and after months of being online he mentions were dating but then when i ask him about his day or the movie he watches he blows me off.. mind you we only have talked about sex and with irish guy we talked about life, movies, sex was a little but not much... anyway its my fault w the last guy for losing my personhood and introducing myself as SEX... and the very first white guy was in middle school and his brother kindly told me he tells everyone i am his friend and his brother called me a nigger. Anyway , i seem to have bad luck w white guys and i have hate for them and when i see them i try not to look at them but they spot me but i just need to heal and regroup and find myself again.. i make guys my life and that is a NO NO!!! no one should be your life!!! anyway hard to let them go and the hurt but little by little it changes...
Permalink Reply by Compound Egret on Not to apologize for the guys you mentioned, but any race of men will do this to you if you let them. There used to be a member here who said the same thing about Black men and believed that other races of men would not do the same.
Beyond that, set a standard for yourself and how you will and will not be treated. If you've never been out on a date are you really dating?
Permalink Reply by kifaru on I've never dated a white guy(hahaha), but I have had several white male friends. Men are men at least as far as there being good guys in every group and bad guys in every group. If you are in a white guy phase you aren't much different from them if you are fetishizing them. You should explore your feelings and see why it is you are attracted to them. I would also say this based on my experience. It is always a bad idea to bring sex into the picture early on if you are the get caught up kind or you are not in touch with your sexuality. i know there are women ou there that can have good casual sex but they are a rarity and most guys i know will take it if they can get it. Best of luck to you. I hope you find what you are truly looking for.
Permalink Reply by Dustin Thewynd on I've been there with white girls ,,,except I didnt chase them. They viewed me as a token because I represented everything that thier folks didnt beilieve in ..thier daughter dating a black guy for one ...LOL! The black guy thier daughter was dating didnt fit the profile of what they wanted me to be ...a nigga.
These girls where in all shapes and forms ...from cheerleaders to just straight hillbillies LMBO!!! ....but what I repped to them was exactly that.
Being with me made these girls feel like they where being bad, like in the way of wanting to be defiant towards thiere family and peers ...I was thier fantasy. (cheese lmao!)
But as time went on I strated seeing more black girls that where closer to my level ...and meeting some that where far beyond me. It is so rare/ to find a simply beautiful black girl here where I live ...one reason is becuase most of them are chasing the white guys. Ha! Ha! Ha! ...isnt that irony?
Anyways ...you very much do have the right to believe in your definition of happiness ...and dont let any of them take it from you otherwise you'll compromise yourself...
Truth can be scary and ambiguouse but if we dont learn from our mistakes then how are we learning?
Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on Not to apologize for the guys you mentioned, but any race of men will do this to you if you let them. There used to be a member here who said the same thing about Black men and believed that other races of men would not do the same.
Beyond that, set a standard for yourself and how you will and will not be treated. If you've never been out on a date are you really dating?
Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on Its already been said but you can't let your experience with some people taint your view of an entire race. You can't force someone to like you and it kind of seems like you've been chasing after assholes just because they happen to be white. Anyone who feels the need to hide you (not be seen in public with you) isnt worthy of your time. In any case don't force a relationship just because you want it. Let it happen with someone who likes you as much as you like them.
I've had Sistas step on me for White guys @ alot of the shows back in the day.It was Fucked up cause they were treating me like "Why is this Nigger talking to me" or get around their White friends acting Stuck Up.If a Sista wants to date White Men that's her business,just don't rub it in my face.
Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on I've had Sistas step on me for White guys @ alot of the shows back in the day.It was Fucked up cause they were treating me like "Why is this Nigger talking to me" or get around their White friends acting Stuck Up.If a Sista wants to date White Men that's her business,just don't rub it in my face.
Permalink Reply by lyfenlyn on your right none of them were dates if i havent been out with them.. and yeah all race of men have some assholes in them.
Compound Egret said:Not to apologize for the guys you mentioned, but any race of men will do this to you if you let them. There used to be a member here who said the same thing about Black men and believed that other races of men would not do the same.
Beyond that, set a standard for yourself and how you will and will not be treated. If you've never been out on a date are you really dating?
Permalink Reply by LesYpersound on Permalink Reply by Tomeka J on Hello...
Well that is true every man will do that to a woman regardless of the race. Butttt!!!!!! (there is a butt) I have dated a few white men myself lmao and they all seem the same. The really dont know how to handle a black woman. In all honesty.. Well the ones out here, it depends on the man. Since i live in arizona lolol.... The white men out here are scared to adventure out of there box. Mainly because we are very intresting, they dont understand us at all. Black woman are very strong minded woman with so much to offer... As for my advice.. i think that you should just keep doing what you do and be who you are , because eventually someone will definantly come. When your not expecting it, dont regret anything in the past because we all mess up sometimes...=)
MUAHZZZZzzzz Victoria
Permalink Reply by Tiny Dragon on I've had Sistas step on me for White guys @ alot of the shows back in the day.It was Fucked up cause they were treating me like "Why is this Nigger talking to me" or get around their White friends acting Stuck Up.If a Sista wants to date White Men that's her business,just don't rub it in my face.
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