covens or solitary?

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Permalink Reply by Kodachi on August 27, 2011 at 10:10am

I'm a solitary and I believe I prefer it. I thought about wanting to be in a coven but I then remembered I don't handle people well. I like the freedom to work with my own time and duck drama that could occur. It's hard finding younger members to start a coven with, especially non-white ones because they're moreso busy hiding their faith than anything.

 

And I notice a lot of Black Pagan groups I'm with are mostly filled with way older people. It makes me want to have younger people around too.

Permalink Reply by Hekau on August 27, 2011 at 2:51pm

I'm very much for solitary.  I've had a couple experiences with covens when I was younger but they didn't satisfy what I was looking for.  It was either focused mainly on the feminine leaving us guys feeling like we were just useless (basically like doing the opposite of what Catholicism does to women.)  The other was just a group of people talking but never doing anything, and both groups had me as the only Black Pagan.  I keep thinking it would be nice to be apart of a group but I keep thinking of myself and how I'm always pushing forward and some many groups that I've read about just stay in the past and don't look at pushing the spells and/or potions forward.  I've hardly meet any that meditate.  So I'm going to stay solitary.

Permalink Reply by Lady Paradox on September 5, 2011 at 2:29pm

I am a solitary witch and have been for the better part of this life.  I have a few friends that lie to dabble but I think I would like to join a coven. It gets lonely practicing by yourself, as well as having no one to converse with. Though I focus largely on the Goddess, I try and honor the God in all my magick. Most wiccans I know or have met, prefer one over the other, never both. Most people who think of wiccan/witchcraft only see the "negative" and want to practice or join for the "spook" factor. I think I will continue to be solitary until I find my "family" so to speak:-)

Permalink Reply by Lady Mika on September 7, 2011 at 8:15pm

I am definitely solitary, and have been since I was 14. I started practicing with someone in my early 20s, but she did it more to dabble than take it seriously. I've considered joining covens/groups/temples and the such, but honestly, I'm more comfortable with being solitary. I don't have to deal with the cults of personality, cliques, popularity contests or just having to be surrounded by people I may not like or even want to be around. So, solitary it is.

Permalink Reply by taryn m on September 9, 2011 at 9:34pm

the main reason i want to join a coven is to learn from other witches who are more experienced than i. there is only so much a book can teach you. most of what i know i have learned from someone else.

Permalink Reply by Hekau on September 10, 2011 at 1:26am

That is a wise idea but I would submit this axiom, listening to your inner self will gain you more experience then anyone outside of you.  Magick is really a journey of self discovery, the self limits and understandings.  While it is true that as a species, we do generally gravitate to groups that are closer to our ideals, true personal growth happens on an individual level.  Your more experience self will give you only what you can handle, when you relax and listen.

taryn m said:

the main reason i want to join a coven is to learn from other witches who are more experienced than i. there is only so much a book can teach you. most of what i know i have learned from someone else.

Permalink Reply by taryn m on September 10, 2011 at 7:26pm

yea... for sure

love circles though!! its been a very long time since i been in a big circle. and the experience really doesnt compare.

Permalink Reply by TallawahKaBast on December 21, 2012 at 7:20pm

Thought about joining a coven, even one online as I doubt that I will find one in my area.
Been solitary for two years and have learned a lot about my path and myself. It is very true about being lonely, but I would rather remain solitary rather than witness power struggles, personality clashes etc... After much thought, loneliness is a rather small price to pay for freedom.