I was lucky enough to have a supportive mother, everyone else either tolerated or did not approve. Mom never questioned my hair color ("it's just hair, it doesn't change who you are!" she would say), my clothes, she didn't care! She knew who I was and that she raised me well enough to not act a damn fool in public, so it was nothing to her. And that's what I plan to do with my daughter. She's only four, but showing some signs of individuality and I encourage her to be herself. It will always be to me what it was to my mom; as long as she's not hurting herself or someone else it's not even an issue. There's worse to worry about when raising kids!
It's awesome that your daughter has YOU for backup.
my eldest is 16 now and stretching her indepentie/creative muscles. my policy is as long as it's not permanent, have at it. wanna shave ur head bald, go for it. dye it blue & green- let me help u out. henna & sharpie tattoos, have a blast. childhood is the time for finding urself.
as a child i always felt caught between 2 worlds. my sense of style didn't match up with my musical taste (at least according to everyone else) called oreo or such.... i always felt judged by both worlds. my mum was awesome enough to let me find my own way- with the occasional side eyed glance. if u instill a sense of power in self, your duty as parent is almost fulfilled. all we can do is give them the tools they will need to live and thrive. a strong sense of self and self love are crucial- especially when it comes to lil (and not so lil) girls.