If you are a heterosexual, testosterone filled man, you encounter it every day.
If you are a church-going southerner, it has probably been pounded into your psyche and belief system.
Even if you are an enlightened, “woke” Hotep, you’ve allowed it to seep into your brain.
There is a remnant of hate that Black people have chosen to ignore or disregard for generations. We all know it exists, even in our own hearts and minds but we allow it to…
Added by Sexual Politics on October 26, 2016 at 10:17am — No Comments
Say we know someone who is going through life and a half, and perhaps we feel as though they aren't doing all they can to get themselves out of a particularly bad situation. We decide to give them (often unsolicited) advice, and almost always start off our self-righteous diatribes with:
“Well, if it were me…” and/or, “Well, if I were you…”
In 2001, the musical group City High released their…
Added by Sexual Politics on October 13, 2016 at 10:30am — No Comments
Its midnight and currently I'm celebrating GayPride in Amsterdam. A fitting place to celebrate anything liberal and slightly edgy. The air is carnivalesque, filled with an odd mix of progressive celebration and debauchery. Protestant-looking tourist families are holding penis-shaped balloons like its nothing, whilst observing the general festivities of the city, like the good little spectators that they are. Because hey, its Amsterdam, the place where anything goes to those…Continue
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Singer/songwriter/rapper Frank Ocean recently took to Tumblr to write this powerful essay about the Pulse nightclub shooting, homophobia in general, and religion’s part in it. It’s positively incomprehensible that the word that contextualizing queer identities and highlighting the very real, systematic…Continue
Added by Sexual Politics on June 21, 2016 at 10:30am — No Comments
As my well-intentioned straight friends have spent the past few days adding rainbows and #WeAreOrlando to their statuses, the news about Omar Mateen's regular attendance of Pulse has made me realize something darker and sadder: #IAmOmar, or at least, I kinda was. And as much as we would love to lay the blame elsewhere, we all made him together, and we're all currently making the next one.
Starting around the time my fellow 8 year olds realized that I sucked at…
Added by Sexual Politics on June 15, 2016 at 11:30am — No Comments
A biracial Kenyan woman named Phoebe Boswell is turning race-based flirtations she encounters while Tinder’ing her local, and very white city of Gothenburg, Sweden. If you’re a woman of color who, like Boswell and myself, has trolled through online/app dating before, you’ve probably/definitely encountered some questionable interactions with white men and non-black MOC. Be it through microaggressions via fetishization in the form of curiosity and experimentation and flat-out…Continue
It's a summer afternoon.
No, I don’t give a fuck.
It’s a summer afternoon, and that is exactly what it is - so why would I say otherwise?
It’s a summer afternoon, and I’m listening to a soundtrack from a film I don’t want to mention in case this becomes famous enough for me to require some sort of fee for mentioning it.
If that didn’t make any sense to you, then you should probably stop…
Added by Sexual Politics on May 9, 2016 at 5:30pm — No Comments
My name is Cheyenne Byrd, known by friends and neighbors as Saintly Sinner. I am a 34 year old Black lesbi-not-so-flexible biological womyn, and I live in a small, predominantly Caucasian neighborhood outside of Pittsburgh called Latrobe. I am a genuine gemstone jewelry designer, and I take great pride in my pieces. Everything I do is done by hand, I will NEVER mass produce, and I want my very special pieces to touch human lives across the globe.
I also happen to…
Online/App dating-while-black can get pretty weird or be down right scary and depressing. With that in mind, Jordan Kunzika, Brian Gerrard and Justin Gerrard set out to create a black-centric dating app, Bae, with the hopes of making it easier…Continue
Added by Sexual Politics on April 6, 2016 at 12:47pm — No Comments
During a trip to promote her #Stop Rape. Educate campaign in Cape Town, South Africa, New York-based activist, Amber Amour, was sexually assaulted. What began as a consul shower ended as violent rape.
Moments after the assault, still on the bathroom floor, Amour took to Instagram to document what had happened. “Here I was, telling survivors every single day that they should…
Added by Sexual Politics on January 7, 2016 at 12:00pm — No Comments
When I was 9-years-old I overheard Sasha climax halfway through her track “Kill The Bitch.” And overheard is a word I’m choosing to use loosely, considering I purposely pillaged the CD tower in the basement for the Bogle reggae compilation album.
And as disturbing as this sounds, I know for a fact there are little girls who are verbally "surfboarding" and things since Beyonce’s recent self-titled album dropped. While this isn’t another think piece on Mrs. Carter,…
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The dating scene is hard for everyone. Almost every singleton I know has admitted that although the idea of having a significant other is appealing, the whole ‘build-up’ process leaves little to be desired. The other week I discussed some unhealthy thought processes that single females (who want relationships) sometimes possess without realizing. This week I…Continue
So you’ve stashed a few compromising photos of your ex-girlfriend in your digital vault. You’re a heterosexual man; a man with publishing power, you’ve no qualms about addressing your personal gripe in a very public way. And once you unleash the photos from your bold grip, you will feel gratified.
This release will feel better than the orgasms you used to enjoy with her.
And behind your anonymity bares your bloated power and arrogance which stems from your distorted…
As a part of my bid to reconcile myself with all that is moral and fulfilling, I’ve decided to settle for nothing less than a relationship in terms of romantic interests. No flings, no one-night stands and no casual arrangements. Noble as that may be (depending on who’s looking at it), the chronically single will understand that the click of a finger a boyfriend does not summon! A lot of us are out of practice and what some may not realize, is that we are making ourselves…Continue
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Regarding bisexuality my 29th birthday was special. I found myself in Amsterdam near the Museum Square Hotel Amsterdam kissing a Dutch man who insisted that it was okay to let his girlfriend…Continue
Part of working in the BDSM community professionally is being able to market yourself. Of course, many of our clientele are used to seeing thin, white girls with huge breasts in painted-on latex. But for the black and brown kinksters, being black and brown poses its own individual problems as far as marketing and promotion are concerned. There’s a part of me that will always be the weird girl in the big room. I was weird throughout junior high as well as high school. I was also…Continue
What's your fantasy? I recall seeing Spike Lee’s 1996 film Girl 6 when I was much younger than I am now. I’ve always been a fan of Spike Lee’s flicks, but Girl 6 to me remains one of his more unsung pieces, and still no DVD release? Shame on you, Spike. For those who are not familiar with Girl 6 it starred the drop dead gorgeous Theresa Randall as an actress down on her luck and in dire straits. Unable to find a steady paying acting gig, she responds…Continue
“I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it.” When Rihanna sang in “S&M” about how whips and chains excite her, a shockwave went through the pop world. People excited by getting hurt? Oh no, no, that couldn’t be right. And on top of that a Black woman parading around in latex, rope bondage, oh that’s a definite “no.” Proper Black women do not express their sexuality as deviants, that type of sexual abandon is left for white women and not us.
But I have never…
I have this Black male guy friend. He just landed on the opposite side of 30 and finds himself single. Very marriage minded; he eagerly waits for the day when he can meet that special lady and have children. He’s a successful entrepreneur in New York City. He has a devilish sense of humor. He LOVES his Momma and always conducts himself as a gentleman. His body is cut up like a Greek statute thanks to his daily body building and yoga routines. His smile can light up a room.…Continue