... the other Black experience

Would you ever date someone heavier than you (guy or girl)? The other night I was just searching around the web like I usually do when I can't sleep, and stumbled upon some message boards where females asked men "Is 5'5 180lbs too big?" "Do men consider 5'7 190lbs too fat?" "I'm 160lbs, am I thick... do guys like thick girls?". I'm not going to lie, I'm not skinny by ANY means. I'm thick, but I don't consider myself fat. A lot of guys on these boards were so... so... shallow! I was so angry I had to shut off my laptop.

Words by Kia Jay

A. People distribute their weight differently. You can be 5'5 and 160lb and not even look it and then there are some who look unhealthy.
B. The average American woman is 5'8 I believe and like 150-160, about a size 12-14. How is that big?!?
C. Short and thick does NOT equal fat...

Why do we idealize thinness? Is being average size/weight really a turn off? I have a theory... the guys who are the shallowest probably have nothing to offer themselves. I understand that sexual attraction is what draws two people to each other in the first place but there is a fine line between sexual attraction and just wanting a "trophy" girlfriend on your arm. In that case I want a Reggie Bush on my arm (-__-) I have had insecure moments where I dated guys my weight or a little smaller but it was not that big of a deal, and those who found me "fat" were just shallow, douche bags who dated girls that wore makeup 24/7 and got made up for classes like they were going to the club! lol I was just too down to Earth I suppose =P.. I could go on and on all day lol.

I would like to hear others opinions... Is weight/size really THAT BIG of a deal when it comes to dating someone? Is it all about arm candy? How much is too much?

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Comment by Gullah*Gotham*Glitter on September 11, 2012 at 8:44pm

Why does someone have to be shallow? On some real, people are attracted to different sizes. You have to be at what it comfortable and healthy for you.  Me personally, no I wouldn't date someone who is overweight. I don't find it attractive.  I am trying very hard to get in shape so that I can one day have a long healthy happy life.  I expect to be with a person who expects the same with their body. It's not only physical appearance but just overall health.  I can't be with a person who just doens't give a damn about their health and well being. There is however someone out there for everyone.

Comment by Alex Thibou on February 20, 2012 at 2:10pm

If you have a problem with my taste in women... ummm.... fuck you.  Women are shallow too. 

I love it that you love all 300 lbs. of yourself but I won't date you.  I like women on the slimmer side of thick who are active.  Also I'd much rather have a few extra lbs and active than someone who is skinny for no damn reason. As someone who has a shitty metabolism I understand that it's not always easy to control one's weight but we must take care of ourselves.  I understand competition and natural selection.  Women overlooked me when I was 240 lbs. and I hated many of them for it.  It made me work to better myself. 

Comment by Mark Clemons on December 9, 2011 at 12:53pm

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Comment by BlaquePayne on August 15, 2011 at 1:34pm

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Comment by Makini on August 10, 2011 at 8:43am

The so called average american woman ain't white...Sistas got hips and I've from my lady that her doctor thinks she's who's friggin standards man..

Personally I'm not dating a muffin top and damn sure not a souffle' might be a good person but I do like staying in shape and just because you might be bigger doesn't necessarily mean you're not in shape.

Comment by Milo Mojo on August 7, 2011 at 10:43am

I don't find myself attracted to overweight men (thick/chunky is one thing, but 300 lbs of mostly fat is another). I am athletic and it is important that I move and shake (literally and figuratively) and just as important that the person I'm with moves and shakes with me. You can be a doll and we can be thick as thieves, but I can't look at you as a significant other that I can count on, if you can't take care of yourself.



Comment by silentchick18 on July 29, 2011 at 11:57pm
If the guy is genuinely nice, then why not.
Comment by Earth2Flame on July 26, 2011 at 8:35pm



@ALBERT M FRANK III: A thicker body doesn't necessarily equate to not being disciplined...I'm more active than a lot of my smaller friends (who totally will down twinkies in front of a television for hours---and TRUST they do),likewise...I have a friend who is a size 3/4 who started a birth-control regiment to gain weight because she wasn't happy with her size...Some people are genetically bigger than others and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that...I think its when people start placing values on a person based on the way they look (which in my opinion is totally superficial and invalid) that the problem comes in...a person is a living soul,regardless of what they look like and that and I try to always keep that in mind...but I'm a woman,and so I generally don't only form impressions of people based on face have a tendency to be more visual in appreciating (or not appreciating) aesthetic value...

Comment by Casanova Frankenstein on July 26, 2011 at 7:31pm

I sometimes wound up (past tense) with bigger women by mistake. My mind would play tricks on me as I would see them and think they were smaller than they really were.. I don't know if that makes any sense to anyone.

My main problem with not wanting to date bigger women is the same reason I don't want to date habitual drunks, or bums, or cheaters: discipline. I have managed not to get fat by moving around and eating a semi-healthful diet. I don't care to date someone who overindulges in anything to the point that it becomes detrimental.

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