My Dream Man

Surah 31:18 "And swell not thy cheek (for pride) at men, nor walk in insolence through the earth; for Allah loveth not any arrogant boaster.

My Dream Guy:

Someone who exhibits self-consciousness, who understands his strengths and weaknesses, and more importantly uses this knowledge of self to improve upon faults that he possesses and nurtures his strengths accordingly.

Someone who appreciates his heritage and is proud of it, yet is open-minded enough to want to learn about and experience other cultures (that's cultureS plural, not someone who is obsessed with one singular culture) and can appreciate cultures other than his own without having to emulate them or demean his own.

Someone who is honest. I don't want some six-winged Seraph so without flaw that my imperfect mortal eyes combust upon seeing the glory of their being. Meaning, I want someone who can acknowledge the wrong they have done, the mistakes they have made, truthfully and fully, and can be vulnerable enough to admit that he, like all of us, can be defeated by our own actions at times, but has enough gumption to not be defeatist and try to fix his mistakes.

The person that I'm with doesn't have to like the same music that I like, regale in the same movies that I do, nor even dress in the same manner in which I do, but he is caring enough,compromising enough and adventurous enough to want to go on experimental endeavors of learning more about each others tastes.

Someone who is understanding of who I am as a person, and appreciates me for that. I'm not asking for him to see perfection where there is imperfection, but to be supportive of me.

Someone who is relatable. Someone who realizes that everyone has a sob story and though he may have gone through struggles, that the only way to advance yourself is to become a stronger person because of it. Someone who is not always holding onto their handkerchief in their pocket, but will allow me to give them my shoulder when they need it.

Someone with a sense of humor. I am extremely dorky, goofy,sarcastic and witty. I need someone who can match me for wit and for slapstick. Someone who is comfortable with himself and isn't constantly trying to play the cool kid.

Someone who is well-versed on a variety of subjects and can challenge me intellectually. He can teach me something today, and I can teach him something tomorrow.

Someone who makes me a priority not only in his thoughts but in his actions.

Someone who is gifted, yet humble. ARROGANCE IS THE BIGGEST TURN-OFF.

Someone who KNOWS that love is about growing...being with someone who nurtures you and allows you to grow individually as well as together.

Someone who knows that true love is about telling someone what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.

Someone who can add up the details into the bigger picture.

Someone with a discriminating eye when it comes to loved ones: it's in the quality not the quantity.

Someone who has a strong sexual drive and is sexually experimental, but not promiscuous. Someone who knows that sex is nothing without love and therefore does not feel the need to sleep around when they are not in a legitimate relationship. If you can't respect yourself then how can I expect you to respect me.

Someone who can tell me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world and I can tell that he means it.

Someone that I can spend hours in their presence, without words exchanged, and still hold a smile on my face.

Someone who respects his parents, but is man enough to make his own decisions and has enough conviction behind his beliefs and what he wants that he will take the initiative to talk to his parents (respectfully) if they disagree.

Someone who is responsible for himself.

Someone that I am physically attracted to...he may not be attractive in the traditional sense,but that is not what matters.

Someone I can trust.

Someone who is emotionally available.

Someone who is faithful.

Someone who respects boundaries.

Someone who tells all his friends about me,including the female ones.

Someone who will do stupid little things to make me happy, like drawing a picture of me even though he can't draw,leaving little notes and gifts in my mailbox when we can't see each other,give me 25 cent rings or record an episode of my favorite cartoon for me when I'm at work or in class.

Someone who will give me my first promise ring.

Someone who is proud to call me his girlfriend, and acts like it.


Someone with whom we can be in the same room surrounded by people, corners apart and I still feel close to them.

Someone who knows that his friends are mine and my friends are his but that we lead separate lives that happen to be intertwined.

Someone who respects me mentally, physically,verbally and spiritually.

Someone who I can sleep with and not feel the need to do anything more than sleep.

Someone who isn't afraid to be wrong, and won't rub it in my face when I'm wrong.

Someone who is good with kids and animals...Someone that my nieces remember by name

Someone who can have porcupine fights and silly string fights with me, and not feel less intelligent or immature because we do it.

Someone who can make me feel secure.

Someone who can set skittles ablaze with me.

Someone who can comfort me when I'm upset

Someone I can call one of my heroes and I am one of his.

Someone who write blogs about me, even if I can't read them.

Someone with whom I can go berry picking, to museums, the zoo,acupuncture, laserquest, the bookstore,the park, I can paint with,play video games with,go to concerts, and sing to the eldery.

Someone with sound judgement but is not judgemental.

Someone who can disagree or fight with me without turning it into a childish argument.

Someone who DOES NOT have a flair for theatrics.

Someone who feels the need to care for me, but isn't threatened by me wanting to care for them.

Someone with energy to complement my some-what hyperactive nature.

Someone whose touch makes me glad that I'm in the skin I'm in.

Someone who astounds me simultaneously with their wisdom and their naivete.

Someonewho puts family and real friends first, yet shows everyone respect (even those of whom he doesn't like).

Someone who will defend my 'honor' if it ever were to come into question.

Someone who resists temptation and can can cut off contact with the temptation if it becomes an issue.

Someone who makes menial chores fun.

Someone who lets me sing with my horrid voice, and more importantly actually likes it (or at the very least is amused by it)and joins in.

Someone who has a passion for cooking and will let me cook for them as they will do for me.

Someone that can recognize the things or people that are a detriment in his life and to what he wants out of life and can cut ties.

Someone who compliments me specifically, not with generic adjectives. i.e. "I like the way that your eyes crinkle when you smile" or "The way your skin glows in the sun is ...".

Someone who isn't obsessed with pornography.

Someone who takes care of me when I'm sick.

Someone who knows that though I get a certain amount of male attention, they are secure because they know I'm with them and only them.

Someone who recognizes the beautiful,simple, and true things in life.

Someone that talks about me the same way that they would if I was there when I am not.

Someone who will kiss me all over and be playful, and tell me exactly what he likes about each part he's kissing.

Someone who plays video games, but isn't so obsessed with them that his allocations of paychecks reflect that, as do his lack of social skills or inability to do anything adventurous or that involves real life people and situations.

Someone who does things for me, not because I ask him to, but because he wants to.

Someone who actively tries to fix the situation when he messes up.

Someone who exhibits self-control.

Someone with whom I can come up with non-sensical nicknames that make sense to just us.

Someone with some blend of originality, he doesn't have to be the "aberrant film geek" "the artist" or "the music scene kid", but someone who exhibits some trust in his own thought processes rather than existing as a mere compilation and regurgitation of everyone else's thoughts,everything that he has read, every movie he has seen or every video game he has played.

Someone who will read this list and not try to adapt to it, but naturally possesses these traits.

Someone who is going to let me do and be all these things for them as well

Someone who can add to this list.