So, last night I had been thinking about a couple of things while I was trying to get to sleep. One of them having to do with the rape situation Afro-Punk had posted, one having to do with a Tori Amos tune NME had introduced me into, and another having to do with a conversation I have had with other women friends. I had this really sudden realization that most of you are probably going to be like "well, duh!"
Anyway, the realization is that the real shock has less to do with what a woman does or what a woman wears, but how people respond. That's not the whole realization. The real realization is that the majority of people are not strong enough to realize they have control over any "mesmerizing" powers that may cause them to have a mind-melding erection.
Before I go into detail about this, let's touch upon the perfectly vague issue here: shit's truly fucked up in this place. (I say this, because wherever you are, it seems like a lot of alienating things are happening. After all, even little kids are victims now. They always go to someone who don't have the strength or the know-how to defend themselves.) To quote Bad Religion, I truly don't see how hell can be any worse than this. People are being violated, kiled, maimed every single day. Motherfuckers are running up in daycares and killing kids and shit. The question of what we will be able to do about this is getting harder and harder to answer without the aid of the police. Anyway, to the point...
One day, I was taking a look at some pics on DeviantArt. The majority of pics I came across is that of a woman who uses it not only to celebrate her body, but also a middlefinger to those who choose to sexualize or reduce her to a mere object rather than a part of nature. The comments of how good she looks run rampant. Some of them from me, I admit. But it wasn't until one pic she posted that I started to really get the gist of what she was trying to say.
This pic has her laying on her back in both the nude and the nature, soaking up the sun and blending in with the environment. It said all I needed to hear.
Being a part-time feminist (I will explain that some ohter time, if you are any bit interested), I started to truly soak in the fact that what a woman wears really doesn't matter because the most mesmerizing thing about girls is that they were born to catch your attention. Some ladies will make you want to spread them out just by doing something as simple as depositing money in the bank, reading Curious George to their little sister, waking up with a groggy voice in the morning or making a tuna fish sandwich. For most men, it really doesn't take all that much to catch a man's attention and make him want you. So, whether or not that thang you pack in your holster will load any quicker has very little to do with what they wear because some there are girls that will straight up catch you just by looking into their eyes. By telling them to not wear anything sexually charged, you might as well tell them to not exist.
After all, what some dudes don't seem to realize is that if the girl you like looks sexy and fuckable now, not a single piece of that is going to change because no matter what she wears, she will still come off the same way today and tomorrow and next week. The only difference is that you might actually get to know the girl you want to give it to. What has to change is our response to it. Our act of restraint, if you will.
Anytime you see a girl who looks like she was made to catch your attention, keep your fucking dick in your pants and walk on unless it seems obvious that she wants that kind of action or be a gentlemen about it and go up and talk to her. Learn some shit about how to catch a woman before you start going up and taking what may not be for you.
On the other hand, I admit that sometimes men can be a little twisted because some women don't always know how to master their body language. The more you say or do certain things, the more a guy can get the wrong idea. So, ladies, this message is for you, too: please be as careful as you can with what you do. I'm not saying that being careful is a foolproof plan, but aside from owning a gun or taking karate lessons, it's the one thing you may have for yourself.
I know that you want the same freedom as any guy would want and I know all you want is to be seen is as a person rather than a fuckdoll. (Well, all that can also be debated in the bedroom with the lucky man you choose anyway. Heh!) The best way to do that is to try and master the art of body language. Do your best not to get the man twisted, and perhaps, some of us with plenty of will and restraint will think before they cause any stuff to go down.
Right now, that is all we can really do. Instead of slut shaming or blaming the victim, take a look in the mirror and see exactly who is portraying who as the slut and why you think that way.