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So you’ve stashed a few compromising photos of your ex-girlfriend in your digital vault. You’re a heterosexual man; a man with publishing power, you’ve no qualms about addressing your personal gripe in a very public way. And once you unleash the photos from your bold grip, you will feel gratified.
This release will feel better than the orgasms you used to enjoy with her.
And behind your anonymity bares your bloated power and arrogance which stems from your distorted assumption, that once her body is exposed for the world to see, she will be perceived as the slut that you’ve always wanted her to be.
Oh sure, why else would you feel confident to slut-shame her? Perhaps that’s a bit far-reaching, but I see no other reason one would harbor such feelings. And why not take advantage of the male privilege, which is aided by competitive women who also slut-shame women? The deck wasn’t stacked against you–so it seemed.
But your attempt to character assassinate, my fellow man, has backfired.
You failed to realize that the humans of the world are constantly challenging themselves by delineating accountability; in other words, men and women saw right through your bullshit.


By Wilkine Brutus, AFROPUNK Contributor *

The nude photos of Ailee published around the world was supposed to make her out to look, and be solely defined as, promiscuous, reckless, and disposable. Without her consent, you’ve attempted to add to the normalization of the unfair judging and controlling of the woman’s body, or at least the attempt to shame and ridicule the very nakedness of her existence.

This is against the guy code, my fellow man: thoughtful men do not seek out to victimize women. And although we’re constantly reevaluating what it means to be a man, we should never dehumanize women or other men in the process. It hurts. It’s painful to the ones unprepared to receive your selfish blow to their personal freedom.

Slut-shaming is a violation of the guy code.

What are the guy codes some may ask. A man urinating, for example, right next to another man with 30 other open stalls is an utter violation of a guy code. It’s awkward.

Codes are breakable guides; I should probably say you’ve broken the human code. It isn’t unfathomable to suggest that your actions were viciously inhumane because everyone wants to exercise their agency.

And yes, some took the sexual bait. The trolls, despite her overwhelming amount of support, slut/victim-blamed her for taking the nude photos. Some even questioned her past as being “sexually suspect” as if that justified the right to publish her photos. They completely disregarded the lack of permission or consent, as they always do.

There is a code of conduct, a golden rule that is measured by thoughtful men and women. Each social conduct is subjective, open to interpretation. Nonetheless…

Men who break rules with no positive outcome are like a disease trying to wipe civilization off the map; Men who make their own rules while moving civilization forward are the cure we desperately need.

Slut-shaming is against the guy code.

Now…let’s all get naked.

* Wilkine Brutus' website: http://www.vanguardelement.com

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Comment by glenda goodewright on November 24, 2013 at 10:19am
I agree and I have a question. If a guy goes through his girlfriend's purse, iPod, and email, oh yeah....and phone; is that breaking the guy code? Especially if the girl never goes through his things.


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