Race
words from a mixed girl: dating outside of your race, yes, get over it!
Flicking through the pages of Essence Magazines, April 2010 Issue, one thing happened to catch my eye. “The Wince,” by Jill Scott. Now it wasn’t I who read it but my older brother, Ryan, who happens to be mixed. Upon finishing the article, one thing my brother said was, “She’s biased.” Jill wants the equality that African Americans have searched for for over 400 years for that same respect and equatability as that of caucasians, yet she feels betrayed and uneasy knowing that black men are still dating white women.
Words from a Mixed Girl: Dating outside of your race, yes, get over it!
So why can’t todays black woman do the same? How can looking past racism and color cause you to be a disgrace to your race? Should a black man forfeit his happiness just the prove that he is a credit to his race? Is it possible to date outside your race and still be considered a strong, black man?
(Does having a white woman on his side devalue his masculinity?)
However if you ask todays black man why he would choose to date a woman of caucasian background his answer is simple. “Black women are high maintenance, needy, and can’t spot a good brotha when they see it.”
Ok, with this being said, is it true?
How does slavery play a part in the black mans decision to date a white woman? Even Jill Scott herself said that, ” In our past, if a black man even looked at a white woman he would have been lynched.” Does this secret yearning and curiosity for white women in the past still linger in the blood of todays black men. I believe it’s seen by many, including black women that these white women are just novelties and once they are out of the system of the black man he’ll return to his African queen and everything will be right in the world.
But why is it so hard to understand that maybe what a black man wants is a white woman? I know as an African American woman myself I have no problem with our “brothas” dating outside of their race.
I date outside of mine all of the time. I think it’s the fact that African Americans as a people are afraid of losing their heritage. But isn’t what we want in the world a more unbiased and mixed culture and community? I’m not saying it’s going to happen right away, but sooner or later the facts need to be faced that black men are going to continue dating these “white women” and there’s not a damn thing that’s going to be done about it. You can’t have the equality, black women, and the ability to keep your culture separated from others and not allowed the opportunity to mix.
(Go ahead, he won’t bite…that hard)
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